Sexual violence affects people everywhere—but if we work together, we can stop sexual violence in our communities. One way to prevent sexual violence is to make a commitment to be an active bystander.
As an active bystander, you can play a critical role in preventing harassment and assault.
It may feel overwhelming to witness an escalating situation, but these tips will help you create a safer environment for everyone. Remember, only intervene if you feel it is safe to do so. Addressing the situation with a friend or authority figure can also help you feel more confident. We can work together to create safer spaces for everyone.
If you witness an escalating situation, use the five D’s:
- Distract by changing the subject or creating a diversion—or deescalate by using an excuse to get one or some of the people involved away from the situation.
- Delegate. Have a friend back you up, or ask someone with more authority to get involved, like a teacher, a parent, or an older sibling.
- Delayed response still matters. If you saw someone getting harassed but weren’t able to intervene in time, you can still offer support. Ask them if they want to talk about it and offer to go with them to report it.
- Document after you determine no one is in active danger. Give the video or photos to the person being harassed and let them decide what to do from there.
- Directly call out the harassment. Be firm and clear, but remain calm and respectful. If the situation is already tense, escalating it by using this method may make it worse, so use your best judgment.
Your actions matter. Thank you for making a commitment to being an active bystander in the communities and groups you belong to.
If you have experienced or witnessed sexual violence, The Rowan Center is here for you. Our hotline is available for primary and secondary victims and survivors of sexual violence. Call 203-329-2929 (English) or 888-568-8332 (Spanish) to connect with a trained, compassionate advocate.