How should I explain consent to my child?
Consent means freely choosing to say yes or no. It must be clear and given without pressure, fear, manipulation, obligation, or an imbalance of power. Consent is not silence, freezing, or going along to avoid conflict. Those are signs that someone may not feel safe or comfortable. Consent can change at any time, and anyone […]
Does consent have to be verbal?
Consent can sometimes be communicated without words, such as through clear and comfortable body language. However, it must still be obvious, enthusiastic, and freely given. If there is hesitation, confusion, discomfort, or pressure, consent is not present. When someone is unsure, the safest and most respectful choice is to pause and check in. When in […]
How do I explain “withdrawing consent” in a kid-friendly way?
Withdrawing consent means deciding to stop doing something, even if you agreed to it earlier. You do not need a reason or explanation to change your mind. Consent is an ongoing choice and can be withdrawn at any time. Just like you can decide to stop an activity you no longer enjoy, you are always […]
What should I tell my child about pressure if someone keeps trying to get them to say yes?
Consent is not present if someone pressures, pushes, or makes a person feel guilty, afraid, or worn down for saying no. A real yes is given freely, without fear, pressure, manipulation, or consequences. If saying yes feels like the only way to make someone stop asking, avoid conflict, or prevent something bad from happening, a […]
Who counts as a trusted adult for my child?
A trusted adult is someone who listens, takes concerns seriously, and prioritizes safety over judgment. This might be a parent, caregiver, teacher, school counselor, nurse, coach, family member, or another adult your child feels comfortable approaching. It helps to talk with your child ahead of time about who they would go to if they could […]
What if my child feels unsure instead of a clear yes or no?
Feeling unsure is important information. Consent shouldn’t feel confusing or pressured; it should feel clear and comfortable. If your child feels unsure, that’s a sign to pause or say no. It’s always okay to take time, ask questions, or decide not to move forward.
What should I do if another adult does not believe my child?
This is one of the most painful experiences for a child, and unfortunately, it does happen. When a child is not believed, they often internalize the idea that they misunderstood or that their feelings do not matter. That can silence them for years. If this happens, your response is incredibly important. You can say, “I’m […]
Can someone consent if they are drunk or high?
Consent requires the ability to make a clear, informed choice. When someone is drunk or high, they may not fully understand what is happening or be able to communicate clearly. In these situations, consent cannot be assumed. The responsibility is on others to stop and respect that a person who is intoxicated is not able […]
My child seems scared to report something. What should I tell them?
Feeling scared to report something is extremely common, especially for children who are conscientious, used to following rules, or worried about upsetting adults. Many kids fear that telling will lead to punishment, conflict, or losing control over what happens next. Even when your child feels afraid, it is important to encourage them to tell a […]
Is it okay for my child to ask questions during a medical exam?
Yes. Asking questions during a medical exam is always okay. Children have the right to understand what is happening to their bodies, why an exam or procedure is being done, and what their options are. Medical providers should explain things clearly, answer questions, and pause if something feels confusing or uncomfortable. Your child should know […]