Discomfort is often the first signal of harm, especially for children. Kids don’t always have the language to say “this crossed a line,” but their bodies and emotions register it quickly. If your child felt scared, confused, ashamed, pressured, or unable to look away, that experience deserves attention even if it’s hard to label.
You don’t need to decide whether it was “bad enough.” Your role is to help your child process what they saw and make sense of it in a grounded way. Saying, “That sounds like it was a lot to take in. I’m glad you told me,” is often enough to open the door.