Many children are first exposed to pornography around age 11, often without searching for it. Social media algorithms, group chats, and suggested videos push sexualized content to young users.
Start by naming that reality so your child doesn’t feel accused. You might say, “A lot of sexual content shows up online even when kids aren’t looking for it. If you’ve seen things like that, I want to help you make sense of it.”
Be clear that pornography is scripted and exaggerated. It does not show real consent, real bodies, or real relationships. Curiosity is normal. Porn is not a healthy teacher.
What to do next:
Set expectations about not sharing images or sexual messages
Reinforce that questions are always welcome
Review privacy and message settings together
If your child is distressed, consider a school counselor or therapist
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