How do I explain that freezing is involuntary?
Explain that the brain has automatic survival responses. When someone feels threatened, their body may freeze without conscious choice. Reassure your child clearly: freezing is not consent, and it is never their fault.
What if my child thinks consent is implied in relationships?
Help them understand that consent is ongoing and specific. Being in a relationship doesn’t mean automatic access. You might say, “Every interaction still needs to feel okay for both people, every time.”
How do I teach consent without making it feel clinical?
Use everyday situations like sharing, play, or physical space. Consent is about listening and respect, not legal definitions. Keep the focus on mutual comfort and choice.
What if my child thinks jealousy is love?
Jealousy can be a feeling, but controlling behavior is not love. Talk about love as something that supports freedom, trust, and safety.
How do I talk about boundaries with children who are people-pleasers?
Children who are people-pleasers often learned early that approval equals safety. Saying no can feel dangerous to them, even when they are uncomfortable. Start by validating this instinct rather than trying to change it quickly. Let your child know you see how much they care about others and that this is a strength, not a […]
What if my child says “never mind” after starting to tell me something?
This usually means the moment felt too vulnerable. Respect the pause without withdrawing warmth. You can say, “That’s okay. I’m here whenever you’re ready.” Avoid asking follow-up questions right away. Leaving the door open matters more than getting information.
How do I reassure my child without promising things I can’t control?
Avoid absolute promises like “nothing bad will happen.” Instead, promise presence and honesty. You might say, “I can’t control everything, but I can promise I’ll be honest with you and I won’t leave you to handle this alone.” This builds trust without false reassurance.
What if my child tells me something that triggers mandatory reporting?
If reporting is required, your child may feel scared or betrayed if they don’t understand why. Explain the process gently and ahead of time if possible. Say, “Some adults are required to get extra help when kids might not be safe. That doesn’t mean you did anything wrong. It means more people are helping protect […]
How do I talk to my child about saying no to adults without undermining respect?
Respect does not mean compliance. Children can be respectful and still protect themselves. You might say, “You’re allowed to be respectful and still say no, ask questions, or leave a situation. Any adult who is safe for you will respect that.”
How do I explain reporting requirements to my child?
Use simple, age-appropriate language. Avoid legal jargon. Focus on safety rather than rules. Reassure them that reporting is about protection, not punishment, and that you will stay involved and advocate for them.