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What if my child freezes or did not fight back?

Freezing is a very common survival response. It is automatic and happens when the brain senses danger and chooses the safest option in the moment. It does not mean agreement, weakness, or consent. Children and teens often blame themselves for freezing. They may think they should have done more or spoken up. Reassuring them that […]

What if my child seems confused afterward, or even misses the person who hurt them?

Mixed emotions are very common. Children can feel relief, sadness, anger, attachment, and confusion all at once. Missing someone does not mean the harm was okay or imagined. You can say, “Feelings can be complicated. You can miss someone and still know that what happened wasn’t okay.” This helps your child avoid judging themselves for […]

How do I help my child without taking away all their independence?

Trauma takes away a sense of control. Restoring appropriate choice is part of healing. When safety steps are needed, explain them as temporary and protective, not as consequences. Invite your child into decision-making when possible. Ask what feels helpful, what feels overwhelming, and what support they want. Even small choices can help rebuild trust and […]

What if my child does not want me to report or tell the school?

Listen to their fears first. Children often worry about retaliation, embarrassment, or losing control of what happens next. Explain options clearly and honestly. When reporting is required for safety or legal reasons, explain that your role is to protect them, not to punish them. Stay connected throughout the process so they do not feel abandoned […]

What should I do if something happens at school?

Start by supporting the child. Schools usually have multiple options including counseling, confidential advocacy, and formal reporting. The safest option is the one chosen by the student with support.